Well you shouldn't be doing anything you don't want to do, and that's the point. I do things with them because I enjoy doing it. And they, as breds, don't really have a say in it. I do love them and i'll take care of them, but when I want them, i'll take them. That's the difference. You love them and don't want them. At least not entirely in that way. Though, if you ever do, that's their job, and they'll do as you please. Do you have to walk around forcing them to do things, or forcing yourself to do things to them? No, not at all. But I do know there's a part of you that enjoys it. It's that part that at times, is perfectly alright to indulge in, especially with breds, it's what they're here for. So as for being both, it's simple. You be their mother, but when you want to taste some pussy, or have your eating while you watch soap operas on the couch, then pick one to please you...